To do list for a good Relationship           

Experienced marriage and relationship counsellors have identified a number of components that are important to successful long-term relationships for couples.

• Investing time into the relationship;
• Share a sense of teamwork along with shared goals:
• Remembering the good things their partner does for them and to not focus on the negative;
• Put energy and effort into building on the positives:-
  • discovering, learning and practising the skills that create warmth, love, and fun in the relationship;
• Addressing and healing hurts, frustrations and conflicts:-
  • these are not a sign of a troubled or bad relationship but are normal and expected. How these are handled will determine whether healing happens or the hurts keep occurring;
• Engaging in positive use of humour in the relationship;
• Learn how to use the conflicts and frustrations to deepen and enhance the relationship;
• Successful relationships require a lot of skill and a lot of work;
• Loving your partner fully will require personal development and growth;
• Learning the skills of being gentle with each other;
• Actively respect and support their partners dreams and aspirations;
• Experiencing an aliveness of romance and sexual togetherness that continues within the relationship;
• Avoiding and working through damaging emotions rather than holding and using these against the other.

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